No matter what age category you tag onto ‘young adults’, it is clear that the 18-35 year old bracket of believers are missing from our church attendance rolls.
They remain to be a riddle wrapped up in a mystery tucked away inside an enigma.
I was recently asked how to get young adults to attend church. The answer that I gave stands firm: There is no “chapter and verse” proven procedure or program to get a young adult interested in church.
The truth is young adult attendance is an anomaly.
I find that the questions being asked about why young adults cease from church activity are slightly misguided. Many churches work and toil and labor to the point of hopelessness to get young adults active within the Body of Christ. But we all would do well to take a moment and look at what has taken the place of church in a young adult’s life.
And the more you look, the more bizarre the reasons get.
In an article published on a Protestant website, a study done in March of this year linked church attendance to obesity.
Researchers at Northwestern University followed more than 2,400 people ages 20 to 32 for a period of eighteen years and found that middle-aged congregants who attended religious services on a consistent basis were twice as likely to become obese.
Okay, so maybe young adults abstain from church because……they don’t want to gain weight? Sounds a bit shaky to me (although I love chicken & dumplings).
A 2007 Pew Research poll reported that eighteen out of one hundred young adults, ages 18 – 30, leave the church for “political reasons”.
I guess they couldn’t handle the donkeys and the elephants sitting together in the ‘Amen corner’?
The same poll reports that twenty six out of one hundred leave the church because “the church members seem judgmental or hypocritical”.
Then you have the ‘summer sleepers’ who contribute to the ‘summer slump’. These are the ones that take a vacation during the summertime, children in tow, and in doing so somehow permanently vacate the church.
Thom Rainer, President of Lifeway Christian resources, said in May of 2010 that if the trend in young adults abstaining from church continues, “…the Millennial Generation will see churches closing as quickly as GM dealerships.”
But obesity, politics, criticism, and vacations can’t be the only reason why there is a gaping hole in young adult church attendance. We have to at least entertain a hard reality that young adults are just plain bored with church.
I voiced this to a friend recently, and his reply may be the same as yours: “What are we supposed to do? Put on a show for them?” Not exactly. Ministers are called to feed sheep – not entertain goats.
However, there are a few things that we can do to change the method of our message. And probably the number one thing that needs to be revised in many Baptist churches is worship.
Let me first state that I am 31 years old and I am a young adult. And I love “The Old Gospel Ship” just as much as “God of Wonders”. I’m vastly different compared to my peers who are tired of ‘old-fashioned’ worship.
But ‘worship wars’ will only drive young adults away. And who is ever completely satisfied? The older generations has their own likes and preferences, the younger generation has their own likes and preferences, and the young adults stuck in the middle get what?
Usually, they get the disharmony and tempers of the ‘worship warriors’ battling it out. I can’t much blame them for not wanting to get in the middle of it all.
Colossians 3:13 says we are to ‘Forbear’ one another. Literally, that means ‘put up with’. It’s a give and take over likes and preferences.
And besides all of that, is the music more important than the message of the Gospel that is contained within the music? Read the lyrics sometime, and forget about the music. Many of the traditional worship hymns are rife with deep, profound truth and spiritual exhortation. The more contemporary worship is profoundly exalting to the Lord Jesus Christ too.
Also, the technology that is available to churches for a meaningful worship time is nearly unlimited today. If we’re willing to blend, mix, change, and try a few new things in our church worship experience, we may cause a renewed interest.
Another area that we would do well to address is the family. Many young adult couples have no desire to drag their children kicking and screaming to a bland, colorless, lifeless nursery or children’s church. As a parent of three children ages 8 and under, I understand.
But at the same time your children may be too young to allow you to worship the Lord with liberty. The church that addresses the constantly shifting needs of children is a church that will be ‘user-friendly’ to young adults.
A few cans of bright paint, some nails and a hammer, and a child-friendly atmosphere can do worlds of good. A facility update is always exciting.
Staff is important also. A working schedule of duties for children during the worship time and for educational purposes (Sunday School, Discipleship Training, Bible Study, etc.) will help to give a sense of ease to young adults who struggle to find their footing in their walk with the Lord.
No parent likes the surprise of coming to church to find out that there is no one who will attend to the demands of and teach the Word of God to their rambunctious 5 year old. It’s a big let-down, and the loss of confidence is tremendous.
Young adult fellowships and small group gatherings outside of the church can bring interests up too. You can make it to be a kid-friendly environment and have fun with the entire family in attendance. Young adults long for interaction on an informal platform where they can be themselves and loosen up a bit.
In our part of the country, a crawfish boil may be in order. Maybe a young ladies’ informal gathering off-site at a member’s home.
Have a Mom’s day out and let Dad keep the children for the day.
Have a Dad’s day out to the lake and let Mom keep the children for the day.
Or pool together and have a babysitter so all the couples can go to a restaurant for food and fellowship.
Once the relationship has been established (or re-established), invite them to Sunday School. Let them know there is a community of believers that will help them to grow spiritually and support them however they can. 
But most importantly, whatever method you employ to reach out to young adults, make sure that Christ is the center of all things. Decide beforehand that the love of Jesus will permeate throughout all of the activities and events and decisions that will be made to rescue young adults from the world and bring them back into our respective fellowships.






































































































































